Advice to Young Men and (Incidentally) to Young Women, in the Middle and Higher Ranks of Life

Abstract

To a lover. 82 There are two descriptions of Lovers on whom all advice would be wasted; namely, those in whose minds passion so wholly overpowers reason as to deprive the party of his sober senses. Few people are entitled to more compassion than young men thus affected: it is a species of insanity that assails them; and, when it produces self-destruction, which it does in England more frequently than in all the other countries in the world put together, the mortal remains of the sufferer ought to be dealt with in as tender a manner as that of which the most merciful construction of the law will allow. If Sir Samuel Romilly’s remains were, as they were, in fact, treated as those of a person labouring under “ temporary mental derangement ,” surely the youth who destroys his life on account of unrequited love, ought to be considered in as mild a light! Sir Samuel was represented, in the evidence taken before the Coroner’s Jury, to have been inconsolable for the loss of his wife : that his loss had so dreadful an effect upon his mind, that it bereft him of his reason , made life insupportable, and led him to commit the act of suicide: and, on this ground alone , his remains and his estate were rescued from the awful, though just and wise, sentence of the law. But, unfortunately for the reputation of the administration of that just and wise law, there had been, only two a in , and under which entitled his remains to more than in the of Sir Samuel whose was and who was a was in with a young in of all his and his of to and for and to the of in of put an to his life the of a in are to the of in are led to the in there be an in for an this was that all the that is to all of who to upon the and of the all of those who are with this and when the of and will and and the of and that of a all his and to the a him the , who was this of and be to have the in a of “ temporary mental derangement was an of compassion in had and and and to his and to the on his was to be a , , and his was put a the with a that of had to on the ground that the act had been “ temporary mental derangement ,” his for the of his To reason with passion that of the , is with as of reason and with the the it for a an of only in the to the of the the have and will have be the they 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